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In today world many people take the time & effort planning 4 their wedding day than a lifetime being with whom they wed. Many married couples do not stand the test of time being together. When the excitements wears off - some go looking 4 more excitements & find it usually outside of marriage & what happens next - an adulterous affair.

.Monogamy {only 1 spouse} or polygamy {more than 1}, which seems more natural?

.What is the purpose of marriage?

.Will marriage become obsolete?

.Where did this idea of marriage started?

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LADY LOVER
We get married to have someone to witness our lives to share our success to laugh with for a shoulder to cry on because the world is too big of a place for one person to be significant so when u get married its a way of being significant at least to that 1 person.

Master Chi
Marriage was created by religions as a way to have social control overy people. During the caveman times there was not marriage but there was a family. All you have to do is look at mother nature and you will see. All humans has that animal instinct in us. Every creature on earth would try to attract to best mate to keep their dna going. Multiple partner is one of the best way to keep the dna going for longer. As time went on and humans intelligent improve, they start to question things and religion came along to keep the family together by creating the ideal of marriage. Both men and women were killed if they every go against the ideal of marriage. Sex before was taboo. They only time people were allowed to have sex was when they are trying to have a baby.

English Muffyn
Marriage is as valuable as you view it. We all have our own feelings of marriage and it's worth.

How it derived, I don't know. Whoever said it was probably because of religion is most likely right. I guess it was a way too of keeping property amongst the same family. If a man marries a woman, then what's hers is theirs and it stays in one family. If there is no marriage then whatever they have could be claimed as equal shares and part of a different family. Does that makes sense?

But back to what i was saying... marriage is as valuable as you want it to be.

If you enter into it assuming its just a piece of paper and easy to be broken then your basically telling yourself and your partner - nothings lasts for ever and I expect this to end like everything else.

If you go into thinking that it's for life, eternity, etc - then it means so much more.

I tend to find those who object to marriage or find it waste of time feel that way because they just haven't found that person they want to spend the rest of their life with, or their current marriage is horrendous and they feel trapped within it.

When you completely love someone the whole idea of marriage just becomes so much more meaningful. It doesn't seem like a way to shackle yourself to someone or to control someone. That's not what marriage is about.

Some do it for the money, some do it for the honey and some do it for the baby in the tummy. :) But others do it for love.

Marriages as it was said here, sum marry for money or sumetimes it involves pregnancy.

I have known sum Guyanese men going back home getting sum woman pregnant after they had their sexual gratification and dumping dem to raise the child alone.

As for extra marital affairs there are reasons why it happen, sum say they feel neglected and lonely, but for whatever reasons, my opinion, it's showing your partner your unfaithful side, sum who do it feel remorse for what they have done and sum still cling to they were the victim.

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why do people have affairs? Because they CAN!

Tax benefits and cheaper than paying the child support!

So much for justification...

Sup Siren? I missed you. How about you and I get married and try to answer these questions via experience?

Hmmm you are willing to make a decent woman out of me?

Sounds like a fabulous idea, you make the arrangements and I will show up.

Missed you too pal :)

Who said anything about decent?

Oh,
i am also a young boy and looking some more but you know there are many chances for my life because i think this is my life.
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Why anything?

If she's living with a man outside of wedlock...


...then, she's a hoe, she's a hoe, she's a hoe!

If she's living with a man outside of wedlock...


...then, she's a hoe, she's a hoe, she's a hoe!

hahahahaahaah

What are you? A caveman?

If someone lives with someone out of wedlock they are a hoe?

OMG.. what century are we in?

Yes, you heard me right. I said HOE...HOE...HOE!

You know what also gets my bucktah in a tight knot? Children born out of wedlock.

Yes, I'm a cave...er...person. :P

Living with someone and having a baby out of wedlock makes you a hoe?

Even though you could do that in a committed relationship.

Then apparently, a lot of us are "hoes" in cariweb.

What about having a boyfriend/girlfriend? Does that make the girl a hoe too? Or is she only a hoe if she sleeps with the guy... please tell us oh neanderthal...

** getting ready for a fight ** pass the vaseline someone...

sound like someone going to have rear end plug up lol. Em I wonder if he talk to his gf/wife/sister's, and mother like that?

"Then apparently, a lot of us are "hoes" in cariweb."

Gasp! Is this an admission that you had a baby out of Wedlock?

Studies show that women who have children out of Wedlock, are more likey to be poverty stricken, and on Welfare, as compared to 'normal' women. As a taxpayer, I don't want my tax dollars supporting some Hoe and her B@stard offspring, because she was lazy, irresponsible, and foolish ... and made terrible choices in life. Why should I have to pay for her foolish mistakes?

The Baby daddy who impregnate these silly hoes, usually leaves them stranded and moves on to another victim, since there is no marriage and thus no sense of committment. While marriage is not a guarantee the relationship will survive the test of time, it indicates there is more of a committment ... to man, god and society. As opposed to livin in sin, like an irresponsible heathen!

The institution of Marriage has been under attack by Lesbians and feminazis in America since the early sixties, under the guise of a feminist agenda underlining equality for women.
These sly Lesbians figured out that the more women they converted to Man-haters, the more rugs they would have available to munch on.

Many stupid women bought into this philosophy, burned their bras and panties, and focused exclusively on their Careers, to the detriment of marriage of family. Marriage became taboo, and so they had 'partners' who quickly dumped them when the bun in their bellies turned them into lumps of Jelly. Then they make kids who perpetuate this vicious cycle. like deja vu, all over again.

Many of these women lead lives of quiet desperation. And though i suscribe to the philosophy of "live and let live", and "how u make ur bed, so shall ye lie in it" ... It p!sses me off to witness such utter stupidity. Especially since my tax dollars have to mind these dimwitted ninnies, and their b@stard progeny!

WOW... really? And what about single mothers that don't abuse the system, getting up every morning to work for a living to take care of a child because some dead beat man won't help them?

I know alot of women who take care of their children on their own and not just because they had a baby out of wedlock - having a marriage certificate doesn't stop men from leaving .

But how dare anyone insult a woman who has the guts to raise a child on their own? Fine there are those that do abuse it - just go pregnant to keep a man with him leaving anyway - but what about those that don't bitch and love what they have, making sure they take care of what's theirs? I have help with my baby and it's HARD, it's not easy being a parent and I can't imagine having to do it alone.

Kerryuhscunt is saying a woman who lives with someone or has a baby out of wedlock is a hoe but that's her choice - and it doesnt mean she's not being responsible.

And by the way, all those statistics show what they show and are true for the underpriviledged. But it doesnt apply to all social classes, and in this and age i know many educated successful business women who opt to have a child by themselves. Sometimes it's easier than having a baby with a no good man. So perhaps you should all stop assuming that if a woman is single and a parent that she had that child because she was being irresponsible or that your tax money is taking care of that baby.

People are so frikin narrow minded.

And no, I'm not being defensive - I am married so none of this applies to me. But if I didnt get married, or find someone to marry, being in my 30s i would have probably made the decision to have a baby out of wedlock. At the time I had a full time job and made good money so supporting the baby wouldnt have been an issue. And having a baby out of wedlock wouldnt have made me irresponsible and neither would I have been was using your f****** tax money.

Maybe its the type of people your associate with or the "class" of life you live that forms the way you think.

There are single mothers here in cariweb, and there are single parent women whose husbands left them to take care of the kids alone. To those women who may read this, ignore the asswipes. They live in a bubble apparently.

LOL.

To prove my case beyond any reasonable doubt, I present exhibit A: Extreme.
Extreme's Mother had him out of Wedlock, and he is without a doubt the dumbest s.o.b to ever infect these here forums!

Studies show that kids born out of wedlock do not graduate high school, abuse drugs and alcohol, and become juvenile delinquents. Of course there are always exception to the rules, but I am a big believer in statistics ... and statistics show that B@stard kids usually grow up to be criminals.

You stated:
"Maybe its the type of people your associate with or the "class" of life you live that forms the way you think."

I find this rather amusing, considering that you hob-nobbed and got rubbed by the lowest class in society your entire life. You know the kind I mean.

- They wear their pants down to the knees.
- 25% of them are in jail, or have been incarcerated at some point in their lives.
- They comprise 50% of all new aids cases.
- They comprise 70% of all kids born out of wedlock.
- They are always poverty stricken and begging for a handout.

Trust me, based on these alarming statistics, I wouldn't come anywhere near these people with a 10 foot Pole!

You on the other hand ...

Marriage doesn't matter these days to most people, In my opinion ( and observation). Many women have children out of wedlock these days too-- who cares? In all honesty it does NOT bother me at all. I don't see why everyone is bickering? And P.S. a woman is NOT a "hoe" if she has a child out of wedlock( concidering she is in a relationship or been with one person,broke up with the person, I think you all get my drift. ) , she IS a HOE if she has multiple partners,sleeps around and is notorious for it. A married woman could be a hoe too couldn't she? I agree with Muffyn, there are many women who are single mothers, that work hard to support their children, and it is NOT fair to judge EVERY single mother. I am not a single mother and I am married, so I do not know first hand,BUT I also agree with Muffyn that if the woman is in a well enough position ( financially, mentally, physically) and wants to have a child ( without the hassle of being married or in a long-term relationship) then there is NOTHING wrong with that. It does NOT make the woman irresponsible or a tax dependant. Can you people please stay on the topic already?

Final thought : Marriage can be a good thing, it can be a bad thing. It depends on how much effort both parties invest. If it is not sufficient, the relationship/marriage will not survive. If you are happy in a long term relationship, and don't feel the need to be married, by all means do what you feel is right.

It really is sad that people are so ignorant.

* shaking my head *

And fool - stop talking like you know me, because you don't.

Lol. Au Contraire, I do know you. Thats why I wouldn't want to embarrass you with further salacious revelations! You're generally a good sort, so enjoy the Baby and Hubby, and have a happy life. :)