Cariweb

We all heard about aunts, uncles or friends playing matchmaker.

What do you think about some people who go online to find a partner for marriage?

How much can you really find out about someone online? I mean, about who they really are.

At least when Aunty and Uncle set you up they get to hear the gossip ahead of time, so you already know whether the bai was married once before, or whether he has a drinking problem, or if his family is full of lunatics.

You can't find that out online. All you will read about is how normal and wonderful they are. You'll think they are intelligent, well rounded, and the perfect catch.

It's not till you end up with them that you'll discover they are socially inept, have an eating disorder, and drinking problem...

But on the other hand, I have a friend who married her online lover and they have 2 kids and a dog now.. so hell... it might work.

The age of, "I want mine and I want it now", has diffused into the area of finding a mate. That's reality. And reality now offers what many see as a short cut to a relationship. The internet. If you choose to find your future wife or hubby on the internet, do so with discretion and patience. It's not a race and eventually it will happen. Be patient. Choose wisely.

Muffyn is a wise woman. Do spend time with this potential mate out in the "real" world before making your final decision. Lots of time!!! And for heaven's sake, keep your head screwed on well. :)

If this wasn't a successful means of finding a mate there wouldn't be so many sites popping out to act as matchmaker. I think this is propular because people no longer make the time to socialise and meet people and get to know them. Contra is right, it's a short-cut for those who are busy and realise they are alone and suddenly have to find someone with the fear they might end up old and lonely.

I don't see anything wrong with it. The internet is a medium for so many things, why not dating/marriage? I would caution anyone who chooses this path though. I personally wouldn't. You are clueless of who is out there and unless you meet them in person and understand the real person you will only delude yourself that you have met this great 'soulmate'.

Security is my main concern on this and I wouldn't want anyone I know to date someone they met online unless they did proper research and dedicate enough time to getting to know the person.
You might as well take that time to shutdown and go meet someone on the road.